Cultivating A Confident Personal Brand with Bestselling Author Gabby Bernstein

Cultivating A Confident Personal Brand with Bestselling Author Gabby Bernstein

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The Nitty Gritty:

  • Why bringing your authentic self to every interaction is the key to confidence
  • Why getting your content right first is priority over branding
  • Why you must be committed to healing any beliefs that stand in your way of receiving

You’re not going to want to miss a minute of the Profit. Power. Pursuit. podcast this week when I talk to No. 1 New York Times best-selling author, spiritual junkie and international speaker Gabby Bernstein. Gabby shares her secrets about cultivating a confident personal brand, when she added to her team and, oh yeah, getting interviewed by Miss Oprah Winfrey.

Your Authentic Self Builds Confidence

Nobody really wants anything other than you.

– Gabby Bernstein

Gabby says the key to confidence is showing up as your authentic self whether that is vulnerable, goofy, nerdy or something else. If you show up with the state of presence of being your authentic self, that’s when people resonate with you most.

She gained more and more confidence over the years when she became more and more Gabby, and she believes showing up as your authentic self is the key to owning a room, holding a group and to having your presence have an impact.

The first step is knowing the difference between what if feels like to be in alignment with your authenticity and what it feels like when you’re not. When you witness that misalignment, stop doing whatever you were doing and take a breath. You can always breathe yourself back to your truth.

To those that worry about coming off as egotistical when you are your authentic self, Gabby says:

“Being more authentic is the least egotistical thing you can do. The more authentic you are the more you give other people permission to be real. It’s a gift to be real to other people. It means your ego is out of the way when you’re authentic. When you’re trying to be something else is when your ego is in the way.”

Get Your Content Right, Branding Can Follow

I need to make sure I’m keeping it real with whatever I’m doing.

– Gabby Bernstein

No matter what Gabby produces—a new website, blog, social media post or event—she always checks herself to be sure what she’s presenting is free of ego and in the service of what she is doing.

Gabby had never done any traditional branding until about a year ago, mainly because she doesn’t live in the world that way. She’s not a visual person, but when she sees something that’s right for her, she physically knows it and feels it.

Before you get your brand right, get your content right.

Stay Committed to Healing Any Beliefs that Stand in Your Way of Receiving

As I become more grounded in my spiritual foundation, my business grows more, ultimately.

– Gabby Bernstein

Gabby had a belief that if she wasn’t the one to handle things for her business, no one else would, but she shared that that belief was going to kill her and led to severe work addiction. Transcending that belief system changed her life and allowed her to hire tons of people and invest in her business so she can focus on more creative pursuits rather than be tied down in the minutia of the business.

I hope you’ll join us for the full episode when we talk about how Gabby healed and kept her business running after hitting rock bottom, why things happen in her business at the perfect time (yes, even that call from Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday producer), Gabby’s Spirit Junkie masterclass, her “greatest contribution in the world,” and what’s on the horizon for her.

Every week I chat about the nitty-gritty of entrepreneurship with leaders who are building success. Never miss a single episode by subscribing on iTunes.

Online dating, business, sincerity, and strategy

Warning: What follows is a lede you probably never expected to see in a business publication…

In the last 4 months, I’ve found myself in a position to give online dating a go. I’m merely a dabbler, but the process has left me wondering about what lurks in the murky depths below the “matching & winking” at the surface.

When I initially wrote my profile, I made it big and bold. I used words like “ambitious” and “driven.” And I reasoned, if a guy is turned off by that, he’s not the right guy for me.

And that’s not untrue.

But it’s not the whole truth.

The whole truth is that ambition and drive are characteristics that don’t often lead to attraction. I don’t just say that because I’m a woman. Those same qualities in a man might mean he’s prone to workaholism or keeping relationships at a safe distance. Not exactly sexy.

Four months into this little personal experiment and I can say I’ve come to one conclusion.

I put “ambitious” and “driven” at the front of my profile for 1 reason: I wasn’t as serious as I thought about trying to attract attention. It made it easy for me to say “There are no good men on this site!” or “Men just can’t handle a woman like me.”

This week, I came across two resources on online dating that piqued my interest. First, a book by the founder of eFlirt Expert, Laurie Davis, called Love at First Click. The second was a Wall Street Journal article called “Hacking the Hyperlinked Heart.” Both are about online dating strategy. They’re based on loads of personal experience and gobs of research.

Last night, I adjusted my profile. I followed the advice in the WSJ article and toned down the work stuff, concentrating on what I like to do when I’m not working. I talked about being driven by curiosity instead of ambition. I led with my love of travel, lattes, and wine. I talked about cooking and eating out.

It was true. It was sincere. And it felt attractive.

Then I messaged a few guys, winked at a few more, and ate dinner. In the span of a few hours, I had more activity on my profile than I’d had in 4 months.

It’s a good (re)start. No telling where it will go from here, but I feel like I’m taking myself and my goals seriously, all the while not allowing myself to blame anyone else.

“What does this have to do with business?” you might ask.

I’ll tell you. Many business owners nowadays do and say a lot in the name of sincerity, authenticity, and transparency. Sometimes this takes the form of blatant over-sharing, but it can also take the form of not following through on a big idea, not polishing their sales copy, or simply ignoring solid practices because they want to do it “their way” in an effort to be different for different’s sake.

Just as I wrote my dating profile in a way that allowed me to blame the guys, many business owners choose to operate in a way that allows them to blame their potential customers.

“They just don’t understand the value of what I do.”
“If they can’t handle my honesty, I don’t want their business.”
“No one is looking for what I create.”

When you choose sincerity without a care for strategy, you set yourself up to lose. Click to tweet. Maybe that’s what you’re looking for. Though, I’d put my money on the cause being your fear of true success. It’s not that you’re trying to lose (who does that?), it’s that you’re fearful of succeeding.

You’d have to serve the big client. You’d have to write the book. You’d have to create the life-changing program.

You’d have to put it all on the line despite the uncertainty of the outcome.

Sounds pretty much like dating to me…

Strategy and sincerity are not mutually exclusive. The question is: Does allowing sincere communication to fit within a strategic framework make it less true?

I wholeheartedly believe it does not.

On the contrary, allowing strategy to be your framework for relating sincerity means you have a much better chance of actually communicating in a way that allows your customers to see the whole picture, understand how your business can serve them, and make a true impact in their lives. Best practices, tried & true techniques, and definitive strategy work because they shed light on what we share as human beings.

When you inject your own personal truth into a framework of strategy, your truth comes in contact with our most profound sources of connection. You can do the good you’re meant to do through your business because you give your potential customers the best chance of being attracted to what your business has to offer.

Like so many aspects of business today, it’s both/and, not either/or. Choosing to engage both sincerity and strategy is a winning combination.

But, business owner beware, if you start combining sincerity and strategy, you might actually have to go on a few dates.

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