Your definition of balance is overrated.
Okay, I don’t know for sure that your definition is overrated.
But if it has anything to do with weighing out equal quantities of gold while a Lady Justice-esque woman looks on unknowingly, it is.
We have been programmed for strive for balance: family/work balance, give/take balance, eat your veggies/have your cake balance. We want to make sure each dangling tray carries the right amount of weight to keep the scale from tipping.
Phoey.
Contentment – nay, passion & joy – is about defying an equal-handed approach.
We indulge in work when we should be resting, we keep on giving when it’s time to take, we sneak a fork full of goey chocolate lava cake for breakfast. And we feel good about it.
We don’t feel off balance. We feel good.
The pursuit of balance makes us juggle. It puts us behind (always behind,) makes us guilty, neglectful, imbalanced. It’s as useful a concept as original sin. You can never get it right.
— Danielle LaPorte
Tipping the scales isn’t a matter of too much weight here, to little there. In order to maintain balance, you have to gently hold the focus of your passion, purpose, and values.
- If being a great mom & raising engaged children is important to you, do you need to fear the joy of working hard at your business?
- If serving others through your words & actions is your purpose, do you need to fear the need to make a living from what you do?
- If creating art & expressing yourself visually is your passion, do you need to fear the desire to have others love what you make?
We’ve created these false dichotomies. We’ve manifested dualities where none exist. We’ve set ourselves up for failure.
Your joy is whole. There is no need to balance the weight of what is demanded of you. Instead, honor all that you have to give.
{image via lululemon athletica}
